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Slow Sex Retreat for Couples –
Ecstasy in Silence
Ecstasy in Silence—A Slow Sex Retreat for Couples—Tantra, Intimacy, and Mindful Sexuality
Suitable for couples and couples practicing together, at the Nature Community Schönsee
Thursday, May 20 to Sunday, May 23, 2027
This extended “slow sex” weekend for couples is designed to help you deepen your mindfulness and mutual respect—and, in turn, experience shared moments of ecstasy. We invite you to discover and learn to love the power of slowness—without forgetting the other, faster, and perhaps more exciting ways of being together.
By the way, you don’t have to be a couple to participate together. As a practice pair, you can choose to come together for this weekend to explore closeness, communication, slowness, and tantric connection with one another—without it necessarily leading to a romantic relationship. Perhaps you’re friends, know each other from one of our seminars, or simply want to share experiences that can enrich your future relationships as well.
We’ve intentionally left time for you as a couple between seminar sessions. Enjoy quiet moments in the hot tub, relax in the sauna area, or retreat to the expansive grounds—to take a walk, pause for a moment, or simply to be together.
What is Slow Sex?
Slow Sex is a mindful form of conscious sexuality that differs from performance-oriented sexuality. It’s about taking your time, being present, and deepening the connection with yourself and your partner through slow, conscious experience. Slow Sex leads couples to a new dimension of intimacy and can even allow you to experience mystical states of union. And after the seminar, you may well have a completely different understanding of ecstasy. 🙂
Slow sex without penetration? Of course.
Important to know: Slow sex doesn’t require penetration. Many of the most intense experiences of this weekend can arise entirely without penetrative sex—through breathing, touch, eye contact, energy work, silence, and presence. How far you want to go physically is entirely up to you. There is neither an expectation to have sex nor an expectation not to have sex.
Slow Sex in Essence
- Conscious slowness: lingering in the moment without a goal or haste
- Deep connection: sensual, unintentional presence instead of mechanical processes
- Energetic union: Sex as a meditative state in which every feeling in every moment is perceived consciously and attentively, without judging or wanting to change it.
Slow Sex on YouMeUnity
There is no single “ slow sex” method. Our seminar is not a training program based on a specific school of thought, nor is it a reproduction of the work of Diana Richardson, Barry Long, or other teachers who have shaped the modern discourse on slow sex.
We draw inspiration from various tantric, body-oriented, and sexual-psychological approaches and combine them with our own many years of work on presence, energy, communication, boundaries, surrender, and conscious connection.
If you’re already familiar with Slow Sex as practiced by a particular school: that’s wonderful. Feel free to bring your experiences with you—and, at the same time, a sense of curiosity to discover something new here.
How does this long weekend feel?
Slow. Sensual. Playful. Deep. Sometimes quiet, sometimes quite lively. You’re welcome to laugh, explore, step back, let yourself be surprised, and get to know yourselves anew. We don’t want to create a reverent, solemn tantra space where everyone has to look as enlightened as possible—but rather a warm, safe space for experience where depth and lightness can coexist.
What we would like you to take away from the seminar:
- a sense of how nourishing Slow Sex and Silent Union can be for a relationship
- Liberation from old conditioning and reaction patterns
- Bringing the feminine and masculine parts of the relationship into balance
- New impulses on the topics of humility and dominance
- How you can experience bliss through “doing nothing”
- Strengthening self-love for both partners
- Balancing love, intimacy and freedom in a relationship
- Exploring the connection between ecstatic being and spirituality
- Have you experience devotion and trust with each other on a more intense level than ever before
- the sacred art of perceiving each other with new appreciation in worship rituals
- the key to successful Slow Sex: conscious, clear and authentic communication in every moment
- that you experience how Slow Sex can positively change and enrich your entire everyday life
- Our invitation: Enjoy the couples time in the Nature Community. There are so many opportunities to create valuable memories even during the seminar breaks, which you can take home with you as a field of strength for your relationship
How the Slow Sex seminar can affect you
The highest art of sexual union is the shared immersion in timelessness, the merging with all that is. We lose ourselves in order to meet ourselves and the other on a higher level. If we dive deep enough into each other, ecstasy remains a constant part of our lives as a basic feeling.
An important key to other levels of consciousness that we can enter together as a couple is to slow down, to really take time for each other, to prepare for the union until both sides are feeling a yes from the heart. Due to our conditioning, the reeling off of programmes that have become so familiar to us, we sometimes have a tendency to disregard our true wants and needs, because we’re just so focused on pleasing others.
But who says that we can no longer please each other, no longer find each other exciting, if we enter completely new, supposedly much more unexciting paths compared to the ones we know so well? If we walk these paths with curiosity and an open mind, who knows? They might be even more exciting than the tried and tested?
We are inviting you on a journey of discovery together. Get to know yourselves and each other in a completely new way and with a depth and intensity that is difficult to put into words. Come with us into the realm of ecstatic energy, which can be accessed when you trust, surrender and simply let flow what wants to move through you with an open heart and a conscious mind.
This module includes ancient tantric worship rituals that enable you to perceive each other in a completely different way in everyday life – because you have formed a very special bond with each other that not only connects you deeply, but also allows you to merge physically and energetically. It is precisely because you are aware of your differences and perceive them with a loving eye that a deep unity can develop between you. And all of this may very well be accompanied by a feeling of being one with yourselves, your loved one and the whole universe. Bliss included.
Everything we offer takes place within a clearly defined, mindful and voluntary framework. You decide for yourself at any time how far you want to go.
Double Check
Our Tantra couples' workshop, which focuses on slow sex, is right for you if ...
- you are ready to shift down a gear in love and in everyday life
- you want to listen less to your inner pushy parts and more to your heart
- you are curious and newly in love
- it is difficult right now and you are looking for a way to get back to yourselves and to each other
- you are looking for a way in which you can experience states of bliss together without any sexual arousal and without any pressure
- you want to leave old conditioning and reaction patterns behind
- you feel like strengthening your self-love, empathy and intuition
- you want to be even more sincere with each other as a couple
- you would like to integrate more gratitude, happiness and love into your life
- you want to bring more balance and equilibrium into your relationship
- you are looking for something more nourishing than the familiar "higher, faster, further"
- you want a relationship that fulfills you both in the long term and leaves you with a basic feeling of satisfaction
- you are curious about getting to know ecstasy as the mystics of old understood and taught it
- you would like to explore the tantric world together as a (perhaps even monogamous) couple in a safe space
- you like to experiment with the combination of physical touch and states of enlightenment
- you have understood or want to understand how moments of being alone can be used as catapults into the feeling of all-one-ness
- the joy of exploring and sharing adventures is something that connects you
- you want to cultivate the art of slowness instead of being rushed by your own to-do lists
- you are ready to explore yourselves to an unprecedented depth and to show yourselves to others this way
Your retreat location: the nature and recreation paradise Nature Community Schönsee
The Schönsee Nature Community on the border with the Czech Republic: Slow Love Meets a Vegan Retreat in Nature
The Nature Community blends untamed nature, a sense of community, and the remnants of a former luxury hunting lodge into an atmosphere that’s hard to describe—relaxed, spacious, always inviting a smile—whether inward or outward—and full of abundance.
Vegan Retreat with Organic Full Board
A highlight is the strictly vegan organic cuisine: mostly regional and seasonal, with many ingredients sourced from the property itself or the immediate vicinity. And we want to make this clear even to non-vegans: the food here is legendary. Our breakfast recommendation is the homemade vegan Obatzter. 😉
Thanks to the delicious food, our slow-sex weekend is also perfect for people who are specifically looking for a vegan retreat—without having to make special arrangements for shared meals.
At select times, we also intentionally set aside time to enjoy the sauna and hot tub, stroll through the vast garden and our own forest, or simply relax together and do nothing. The wellness sessions are part of our retreat schedule and will be announced on-site.
The most important facts summarized
Creating Ecstacy from Stillness – Tantra & Slow Sex for Couples is just as suitable for newcomers to tantra as it is for those who have been in the tantric field for some time.
The environment of the Nature Community supports exactly what we explore in the seminar:
deceleration, presence and a loving return to one’s own rhythm. Nature, space, warmth and retreats are not extras here – they are part of the field.
Important: The retreat is designed as a safe space for couples and practice partners. During the intimate couple exercises, you will generally remain in your chosen pairing; there will be no partner swapping.
If you’re single and feel drawn to the retreat, feel free to reach out to us anyway—sometimes there’s an opportunity to meet a suitable practice partner before the retreat begins.
Your Weekend Seminar includes
- Guided tantric journeys of touch and perception:
Practical approaches to slow sex, silent union, and energetic intimacy - Breath & Energy Work: explore and let the subtle sexual energy flow together
- Energy & Sound Healing
- Exercises and rituals from our Love & Freedom Tantra, inspired by, among other things, Kashmiri and Tibetan tantric traditions, body and energy work, and modern sexual psychology
- Optional: morning meditation / Yin Yoga
Venue: Nature Community, St. Hubertus-Weg 1, 92539 Schönsee
Date and time: Thursday, May 20, 2027 from 6:00 pm (arrival from 4:00 pm) to Sunday, May 23, 2027, 2:00 pm (departure until 3:00 pm)
Please bring:
- your own water bottle
- Lunghi/Sarong (if available)
- optionally an item of importance for you to temporarily place onto our altar
Seminar prices for this weekend workshop per person (excluding board and lodging):
- Sponsorship contribution (for people who particularly want to support our work): 525 €
- Regular contribution (covers the actual costs for organization, preparation and implementation): 420 €
- Supported contribution (for people with a smaller budget or in a financial transition phase): € 295
Our seminars are based on a solidarity-based pricing model.
It is important to us that no one is excluded just because of the money. If you can give more than the regular contribution, you show your appreciation for our work and make it possible for those who need help to participate at the supported price.
Please choose the contribution that corresponds to your current situation. If you are unsure, please refer to the regular contribution.
We believe in treating each other with respect and fairness – we do not check proof of income.
Accommodation & Catering
Accommodation and full vegan organic meals are provided directly by our seminar venue, the Nature Community.
An overnight stay in a camper is possible from 10 EUR. A double room is available from 35 EUR per person. Catering is also included. You can get exact prices and all accommodation options directly from the Nature Community.
This is how it works:
- You first register for the seminar via info@youmeunity.com and pay the seminar fee.
- You will then receive all the information you need to book your room and meals separately on site.
Language: Our seminars are usually held in German. As soon as someone from another country is present who does not understand German, we switch to bilingual (German and English).
Images: Copyright Nature Community.
We look forward to spending time together with you with lots of love and slowness.
YouMeUnity
Thomas Hochgesang is a tantra teacher and intimacy coach. He uses therapeutic as well as systemic approaches for his work and also involves the energetics as well as spirituality. His approach is intended to help strengthen your self-healing powers, freedom of choice as well as raise your energy level. For this, he uses profound meditation techniques as well as playful body rituals from the tantric tradition and modern psychological insights. By living in India for 5,5 years and undergoing Buddhist training, he was able to establish a mindset that enables him to emanate deep peace and tranquillity. His open heart helps him transmit this attitude to whomever he meets.
Joy S. is a musician, author and specialist in self-love. As an intuitive guide, she leads people to their innermost longings and shadow worlds. During spiritual events, Joy gives free rein to her vocation as a musical medium and plays with elfish, healing tones and frequencies, while she expresses her Kali side as the lead singer in rock bands – the whole tantric spectrum. Together with her husband Thomas, she provides a safe space for deep tantric experiences and supports participants in their self-healing process.
As YouMeUnity, we are offering to accompany you on your journey to yourself. We enjoy it so much to see people arrive at their innermost core. In doing so they are getting ready to embrace one or several relationships that can last and that are honest, deeper than ever before and 100 % heart-open. Such a secure bonding includes honest and appreciative communication, an open heart and a readiness in everyone involved to fully love themselves – and by doing so, learning to love everyone and everything on this beautiful planet, too. Self-confidence, courage, authenticity and embracing what is are also part of this – as well as accepting everything about yourself, even those character traits that you are not particularly proud of. And, of course everything that reminds you of your innate Buddha within yourself.