YouMeUnity
Creating Ecstasy from Stillness
Tantra & Slow Sex for Couples
Creating Ecstasy from Stillness – a Tantra Weekend Seminar
For couples and practicing couples
Friday, May 2 to Sunday, May 4, 2025
May this shared experience as a couple bring you even more into mindfulness, mutual respect and thus also into shared ecstatic states. We would like to encourage you to get to know and love the power of slowness – without forgetting the other, faster, perhaps more exciting ways of interaction.
With the help of slowness, thoughtfulness and awareness, we can immerse ourselves in new, fascinating, magical worlds. And not just alone, but especially as a couple – in line with tantric teachings.
What is Slow Sex?
Slow Sex is a mindful, conscious form of encounter that differs from performance-oriented sexuality. It’s about taking your time, being present and deepening your connection with yourself and each other by sharing a slow, conscious experience. Slow Sex takes couples to a new dimension of intimacy and can even allow you to experience mystical merging states. And you may even go home from the seminar with a completely different understanding of ecstasy. 🙂
Slow Sex in Essence
- Conscious slowness: lingering in the moment without a goal or haste
- Deep connection: sensual, unintentional presence instead of mechanical processes
- Energetic union: Sex as a meditative state in which every feeling in every moment is perceived consciously and attentively, without judging or wanting to change it.
What we would like you to take away from the seminar:
- a sense of how nourishing Slow Sex and Silent Union can be for a relationship
- Liberation from old conditioning and reaction patterns
- Bringing the feminine and masculine parts of the relationship into balance
- New impulses on the topics of humility and dominance
- How you can experience bliss through “doing nothing”
- Strengthening self-love for both partners
- Balancing love, intimacy and freedom in a relationship
- Exploring the connection between ecstatic being and spirituality
- Have you experience devotion and trust with each other on a more intense level than ever before
- the sacred art of perceiving each other with new appreciation in worship rituals
- the key to successful Slow Sex: conscious, clear and authentic communication in every moment
- that you experience how Slow Sex can positively change and enrich your entire everyday life
How the Slow Sex seminar can affect you
The highest art of sexual union is the shared immersion in timelessness, the merging with all that is. We lose ourselves in order to meet ourselves and the other on a higher level. If we dive deep enough into each other, ecstasy remains a constant part of our lives as a basic feeling.
An important key to other levels of consciousness that we can enter together as a couple is to slow down, to really take time for each other, to prepare for the union until both sides are feeling a yes from the heart. Due to our conditioning, the reeling off of programmes that have become so familiar to us, we sometimes have a tendency to disregard our true wants and needs, because we’re just so focused on pleasing others.
But who says that we can no longer please each other, no longer find each other exciting, if we enter completely new, supposedly much more unexciting paths compared to the ones we know so well? If we walk these paths with curiosity and an open mind, who knows? They might be even more exciting than the tried and tested?
We are inviting you on a journey of discovery together. Get to know yourselves and each other in a completely new way and with a depth and intensity that is difficult to put into words. Come with us into the realm of ecstatic energy, which can be accessed when you trust, surrender and simply let flow what wants to move through you with an open heart and a conscious mind.
This module includes ancient tantric worship rituals that enable you to perceive each other in a completely different way in everyday life – because you have formed a very special bond with each other that not only connects you deeply, but also allows you to merge physically and energetically. It is precisely because you are aware of your differences and perceive them with a loving eye that a deep unity can develop between you. And all of this may very well be accompanied by a feeling of being one with yourselves, your loved one and the whole universe. Bliss included.
Double Check
Creating Ecstasy from Stillness is the right workshop for you if ...
- you are ready to shift down a gear in love and in everyday life
- you want to listen less to your inner pushy parts and more to your heart
- you are curious and newly in love
- it is difficult right now and you are looking for a way to get back to yourselves and to each other
- you are looking for a way in which you can experience states of bliss together without any sexual arousal and without any pressure
- you want to leave old conditioning and reaction patterns behind
- you feel like strengthening your self-love, empathy and intuition
- you want to be even more sincere with each other as a couple
- you would like to integrate more gratitude, happiness and love into your life
- you want to bring more balance and equilibrium into your relationship
- you are looking for something more nourishing than the familiar "higher, faster, further"
- you want a relationship that fulfills you both in the long term and leaves you with a basic feeling of satisfaction
- you are curious about getting to know ecstasy as the mystics of old understood and taught it
- you would like to explore the tantric world together as a (perhaps even monogamous) couple in a safe space
- you like to experiment with the combination of physical touch and states of enlightenment
- you have understood or want to understand how moments of being alone can be used as catapults into the feeling of all-one-ness
- the joy of exploring and sharing adventures is something that connects you
- you want to cultivate the art of slowness instead of being rushed by your own to-do lists
- you are ready to explore yourselves to an unprecedented depth and to show yourselves to others this way
The most important facts summarized
Creating Ecstacy from Stillness – Tantra & Slow Sex for Couples is just as suitable for newcomers to tantra as it is for those who have been in the tantric field for some time.
Your weekend seminar includes
- Guided tantric massages and Slow Sex techniques
- Breath & Energy Work: explore and let the subtle sexual energy flow together
- Energy & Sound Healing
- numerous powerful exercises from Kashmiri and Tibetan Tantra
- optional: morning meditation / Yin Yoga
Location: Erlebnis- und Erfahrungsraum Heidelberg, Hauptstraße 119, 69117 Heidelberg
(depending on the size of the group also in another seminar house in the area)
Date and time: Friday, May 2, 2025 from 7:30 pm (arrival from 7:00 pm) to Sunday, May 4, 2:00 pm
Please bring:
- your own water bottle
- Lunghi/Sarong (if available)
- 10 € per person per day for snacks and shared breakfast
- delicious contribution (preferably vegan/vegetarian) to share with the group
- optionally an item of importance for you to temporarily place onto our altar
- for overnight stays (please register!) sleeping bag, sleeping mat, towels and 20 € contribution towards expenses per person per night
Seminar prices for this weekend workshop per person:
- 350 € regular
- 280 € reduced (single parents, students, people on low incomes – nobody should be excluded just because of the money)
- 420 € sponsorship prize
Overnight stay: Some space is available on request in our temple room. Please ask us in case you want to choose this option. Alternatively you can stay in one of the many hotels nearby.
Language: Our seminars are usually held in German. As soon as someone from another country is present who does not understand German, we switch to bilingual (German and English).
We look forward to spending time together with you with lots of love and slowness.
YouMeUnity
Thomas Hochgesang is a tantra teacher and intimacy coach. He uses therapeutic as well as systemic approaches for his work and also involves the energetics as well as spirituality. His approach is intended to help strengthen your self-healing powers, freedom of choice as well as raise your energy level. For this, he uses profound meditation techniques as well as playful body rituals from the tantric tradition and modern psychological insights. By living in India for 5,5 years and undergoing Buddhist training, he was able to establish a mindset that enables him to emanate deep peace and tranquillity. His open heart helps him transmit this attitude to whomever he meets.
Joy S. is a musician, author and specialist in self-love. As an intuitive guide, she leads people to their innermost longings and shadow worlds. During spiritual events, Joy gives free rein to her vocation as a musical medium and plays with elfish, healing tones and frequencies, while she expresses her Kali side as the lead singer in rock bands – the whole tantric spectrum. Together with her husband Thomas, she provides a safe space for deep tantric experiences and supports participants in their self-healing process.
As YouMeUnity, we are offering to accompany you on your journey to yourself. We enjoy it so much to see people arrive at their innermost core. In doing so they are getting ready to embrace one or several relationships that can last and that are honest, deeper than ever before and 100 % heart-open. Such a secure bonding includes honest and appreciative communication, an open heart and a readiness in everyone involved to fully love themselves – and by doing so, learning to love everyone and everything on this beautiful planet, too. Self-confidence, courage, authenticity and embracing what is are also part of this – as well as accepting everything about yourself, even those character traits that you are not particularly proud of. And, of course everything that reminds you of your innate Buddha within yourself.