Testimonials
Interested in what participants of our workshops have to say about us? Here you’ll find the answers.
Testimonials and Press Reports
Dear Joy and Thomas,
I wanted to express my feelings from yesterday, and I wrote something on touch with "consent" , conscious touch! Thanks for the inspiration.
Touch someone , I am sure you want to.
But did you ever ask, does the other person want you to?
You may be chasing lust, your own desire,
But did you ever pause to ask; is it theirs, or just your fire?
We live mostly for ourselves only,
"My need", "my body", "my desire", "only me".
But this world was not built only for "me",
It's a world that breathes in "we".
For truth is one,
the magic lies in a mutual desire.
When souls want to connect,
That's the real passion, that's the real fire.
When both souls yearn, when hearts align,
That's real touch: sacred and divine
September 2026
Dear friends,
First of all, I’d like to thank you for giving me the opportunity to be part of this special evening yesterday.
I have to say that I didn’t expect at all what this evening would trigger and set in motion within me. Even today, a lot of things are still coming up, and I can tell that much of what happened yesterday is still working its way through me. It’s just something completely different to work on your own versus engaging in a process within a group and its energy.
Last night made a few things about myself very clear to me. One realization was that my personal boundaries are apparently set very far out—perhaps even farther than I had previously realized. Yesterday there was a moment when I asked myself what would actually have to happen for me to really put a stop to someone and say very clearly: “This far and no further.”
At the same time, however, there was something that seemed contradictory: a very strong sense of inner security. Not in the sense that “objectively, nothing can happen,” but rather this deep physical sensation: I am at one with myself. I can perceive what is happening, and I can take care of myself.
A second experience may have surprised me even more. Yesterday, I felt very clearly just how much inner strength and self-regulation I possess. One moment in particular was especially striking: when two people touched me at the same time. I was able to consciously accept and allow the touch of one person to reach me while at the same time mentally setting boundaries against the touch of the other person—even though both were happening at the same time.
That was a very profound realization for me: closeness and distance can coexist within me. I don’t have to be simply “open” or “closed”; instead, I can very consciously and discerningly choose who or what I allow into my life at any given moment.
A lot of things are only now really starting to make sense to me. Thank you all for the space you created for me yesterday. 😊
September 2026
Hi Joy,
I’ve been thinking about and reflecting on the weekend. Well, it exceeded my expectations in terms of the freedom I felt within the structure you created. It was like floating around, my mind at peace, happy to dance.
Thank you for everything, and for adjusting the schedule so I could leave early in a ritualistic way. I appreciated it then, and I still do.
It’s hard to believe that I met so many wonderfully down-to-earth people and connected with them so easily in such a short time. I’ll be back. Thank you.
John
February 2026
Dear Joy, dear Thomas,
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for last night, which was filled with the magic of the blue lotus flower. 💙
It was a one-of-a-kind experience that I’ll remember forever. 💫🙏
You have a wonderful space and radiate a sunny warmth and inspiring authenticity. ☀️
May you be blessed in all your endeavors 🌈
Warm regards
Aurielle
Beginning of January 2026
Many thanks to everyone in the team for the wonderful New Year’s Eve party. It was very exciting, but the atmosphere created by you and the other participants made me feel very comfortable and in good hands at all times.
The experience of this appreciative, attentive atmosphere has encouraged me to continue on this exciting path – so I look forward to seeing you again soon and to experiencing new encounters.
Beginning of January 2026
Good morning you 2 beautiful creatures,✨️
Oh, I am deeply touched … how nice, thank you for playing “letter carrier” 😍 (note from YouMeUnity: We helped her connect with two very special people …)
I landed back home yesterday evening and feel deeply touched, nourished and gifted by life and love ❤️ Thank you again from the bottom of my heart for making such spaces of experience possible and tangible❤️ I wish you a wonderful magical time and send you a big hug if you like 🫂🫶
End of January 2025
Dear Joy, dear Thomas,
Finally I am ready to get in touch with you after a long period of feeling into everything that happened. My time with you did me so, so much good! At first I wanted to “hang around” a bit in Heidelberg after the Retreat, but then I decided to go straight home because it felt more appropriate for me.
My son was only gonna come back from his father’s a few days later, so I had time just for myself. I realized that a total calmness had found me, it felt so peaceful and beautiful. A feeling that I hadn’t experienced for a long time!
I am still feeling much calmer inside than before the seminar started, but I also notice that the effect is wearing off a little with every day that passes. But that’s okay, otherwise you’d be unemployed😉!
It certainly won’t be the last time I take part in something like this!
Have a good time!
Best Regards
Melissa
in September 2024
Dear Thomas, dear Joy,
It’s me, Dirk, and it was my first time with you. I found the way you welcomed me and the other participants inviting and the atmosphere pleasant. Although a stranger at first, I felt a familiarity with you. A proper hug to start with (not as short and quick as in other places) is very helpful for dropping one’s shields. The room is harmoniously designed and inviting. I got on well with the pitches of the roof. Thanks for letting in fresh air repeatedly. I found it interesting that I did the 1:1 exercises with the same person the whole evening. There was no need to change, which was all the better, as I was able to create a space with Samira with more and more intimacy and closeness, opening up to each other, much deeper than I would ever have expected. I think we were both blown away by the love that was able to flow between the two of us.
Unfortunately, I had to hurry home because the time had flown by and I was running late and wanted to be there for my child the next morning. Thank you for everything and all the best!
in May 2024
I found it a wonderful, very intensive weekend that showed me that I am basically on the right path with tantra.
I regret having found it so late, but better late than never.
I was impressed by the amount of energy that accompanied me all the way home. And then it was really hard to have to immerse myself in this other world again, to no longer feel this warmth and closeness everywhere, to not be able to hug someone when I felt like it, and so I missed you all and your impulses very much (and still do).
I’m trying to keep up my morning exercise and meditation, as it has done me a lot of good. I would like to continue to feel the peace that I have always felt in your seminar room. I’m also looking at when I can come back, but it’s not easy to plan at the moment, probably more spontaneous.
in June 2024
I am so grateful to you and all the people yesterday for your support, for holding me when I felt so scared. Being connected, even when there is fear or sadness, and being able to have healing experiences in this is new for me.
I am deeply grateful to you and also to Mama Cacao, who supported me in speaking words from my heart today.
With much love and gratitude,
Joana
in April 2024
Dear Joy, dear Thomas,
Brief feedback: I can hardly find words for the state I’m in. The following words can only partially capture my experience. In am in a wonderful, soft and powerful trusting-abundant-radiating-heart-warrior-goddess state, which is ever expanding. I could bubble over with feelings of happiness and at the same time sink so softly and deeply into myself and my self-confidence.
All the best and see you soon,
Jana
in May 2024
Dear Joy, dear Thomas,
Thank you very much for the great and profound experience for me on Friday and Saturday! A smaller group also has advantages and the topic of control was perfectly chosen and implemented very well through various exercises. I feel braver than before and that’s really good. And I continue having the impression that what you’re providing is a very protected space in which I can open up more and more. Many thanks for that!
Joy from YouMeUnity once again in a podcast
Tantra for those who still want to find some courage to come and visit us
Joy talks with Kristina Daum from HerzBauchBindung about tantra—what it means, where it comes from, and how a tantra session actually works. What’s the story behind the mysterious YouMeUnity House? Can I go to a tantra session on my own? Is tantra suitable for monogamous couples? Is tantra always about sex? You’ll find answers to these and many other fascinating questions about tantra right here.
A slightly different testimonial: YouMeUnity in a podcast
Tantra as a meeting space and empowerment playground for women and men
Joy for the ear: Jana Pfeffer, author, illustrator, curative educator and systemic coach, talks to Joy S. in her podcast Herzensspielplatz about tantra, love, freedom, (sexual) energies, relationships, femininity, prejudices, fears, courage and the beauty of being human.
Also going right into your ears: double bubbly, effervescent joyful energy of two women who let both their inner children and the crones speak to each other. Click here for the episode. Have fun listening
And yet, I am also very grateful to my guards for always being on duty, as my light was often misused or I allowed it to be misused in the past. My guides serve as antennae to make me see clearly whether what I would like to show of myself will be respected or not. I have become more cautious.
This is another reason why I am so grateful for the safety and respect I feel when I am with you. When I am in your safe space, I can feel the joy deep within me and my guards can take a rest.
Friday evening was wonderful. It was a very special group that gathered around you. Many thanks to you for the fantastic company and atmosphere.
When we gathered around the candle again, I took a look at us from above and felt such deep joy, gratitude and hope that we had managed to create a peaceful space despite all the personal crises and the world. You are doing very well.
Not tantra in focus, but also femininity - YouMeUnity in a podcast again
Self-love, femininity and motherhood
Those who are interested in the topic of strong women, motherhood and self-love are invited to listen to the super exciting podcast by midwife Kristina Daum. An interview with Joy and her co-author Kirsten Gottwald about enlightenment, motherhood and living femininity in everyday life. Click here for the episode. EnJoy 🙂
I just wanted to leave a lovely greeting and say that I would actually like to spend every weekend with you and that I really miss this space and you and this energy in me right now and think to myself: “Oh man, why don’t I live around the corner, why do I live so far away?”
I’m really regretting that I have a lot of appointments in the near future and won’t be able to attend ConsciousTouch again for a couple of weeks – that’s such a long time, but I definitely want to be back again soon.
I would like to share with you how I felt after last weekend: It was awesome. After the seminar, I was totally exhausted, but when I woke up the next day, I thought: “Hey, something’s different!”
I was still or again in this apartment with all the familiar triggers, this apartment in which I sometimes felt so bad when depression had hit me strongly only a few months earlier. But this time something was different.
And then it dawned on me: “Oh, how amazing, I am not sad anymore!” Or at least not as much as before. That doesn’t mean that when I think about what happened in my past, it’s not sad anymore, but that heaviness inside me has lifted. My smile is different and when I look in the mirror, I just look at myself differently.
The seminar I attended was about self-love. I might be mistaken, but I really have the feeling that I look in the mirror and see that I love myself more than I did before. And I mean it. It’s really interesting: When I look myself in the eye, I have a different attitude towards life. So thank you again for that. Thank you for everything.
I often think of you and your loving and beautiful home. My stay in Heidelberg with the concerts, walks in the thriving city and surroundings and above all the time with you in this cozy atmosphere has had a wonderful and surprisingly strengthening effect on me. I returned home with a much lighter heart. And it's still holding on! I am very grateful to you.
You are unique people. All you do to help people make their lives better. That also makes the environment better. My trip to Heidelberg this time was a new and refreshing experience.
Best Regards
Aira
PS: The systemic constellations seminar was one of the highlights of my stay. I was deeply moved by it. Thank you for letting me take part in it.
January 2023
I like to say it again and again: I am so incredibly grateful to you for opening up these protected spaces and holding them with your love. And I am grateful that I can experience and learn so much with you and that I am touched and allowed to touch so much. It’s just so beautiful! I’ve realized how light and carefree I can suddenly be – and how much has happened since I first walked through your door, even though it was only a few months ago. I have come so much closer to myself. The first few times with you, I didn’t even know if I could or wanted to be touched (because of my own history) and now everything is suddenly so free and I can sit there and be so happy and give so much and that is so beautiful and really: thank you two so much, it is so valuable what you do and I always feel so at home with you and accepted with everything I bring – no matter what it is. At the moment it feels like I could come to ConsciousTouch every Friday. 🙂
Testimonial from November 2022
You can find even more current testimonials directly on the individual event pages. Enjoy reading through them. 🙂