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Creating Ecstasy from Stillness
Tantra & Slow Sex for Couples
Creating Ecstasy from Stillness – a Tantra Weekend Seminar
For couples and practicing couples, in the Nature Community Schönsee
Thursday, May 7 to Sunday, May 10, 2026
This shared experience as a couple aims to bring you even more into mindfulness, mutual respect and thus also into shared ecstatic states. We invite you to get to know and love the power of slowness – without forgetting the other, faster, perhaps more exciting ways of being together.
Between the seminar times, there is deliberate space for you as a couple. Enjoy quiet moments in the warm pool, relax in the sauna area or retreat into the vastness of the grounds – for a walk, to pause for a moment or simply to be together.
What is Slow Sex?
Slow sex is a mindful, conscious form of encounter that differs from performance-oriented sexuality. It’s about taking your time, being present and deepening your connection with yourself and each other through slow, conscious experience. Slow sex takes couples to a new dimension of intimacy and can even allow you to experience mystical merging states. And you may even have a completely different understanding of ecstasy after the seminar. 🙂
Slow Sex in Essence
- Conscious slowness: lingering in the moment without a goal or haste
- Deep connection: sensual, unintentional presence instead of mechanical processes
- Energetic union: Sex as a meditative state in which every feeling in every moment is perceived consciously and attentively, without judging or wanting to change it.
What we would like you to take away from the seminar:
- a sense of how nourishing Slow Sex and Silent Union can be for a relationship
- Liberation from old conditioning and reaction patterns
- Bringing the feminine and masculine parts of the relationship into balance
- New impulses on the topics of humility and dominance
- How you can experience bliss through “doing nothing”
- Strengthening self-love for both partners
- Balancing love, intimacy and freedom in a relationship
- Exploring the connection between ecstatic being and spirituality
- Have you experience devotion and trust with each other on a more intense level than ever before
- the sacred art of perceiving each other with new appreciation in worship rituals
- the key to successful Slow Sex: conscious, clear and authentic communication in every moment
- that you experience how Slow Sex can positively change and enrich your entire everyday life
- Our invitation: Enjoy the couples time in the Nature Community. There are so many opportunities to create valuable memories even during the seminar breaks, which you can take home with you as a field of strength for your relationship
How the Slow Sex seminar can affect you
The highest art of sexual union is the shared immersion in timelessness, the merging with all that is. We lose ourselves in order to meet ourselves and the other on a higher level. If we dive deep enough into each other, ecstasy remains a constant part of our lives as a basic feeling.
An important key to other levels of consciousness that we can enter together as a couple is to slow down, to really take time for each other, to prepare for the union until both sides are feeling a yes from the heart. Due to our conditioning, the reeling off of programmes that have become so familiar to us, we sometimes have a tendency to disregard our true wants and needs, because we’re just so focused on pleasing others.
But who says that we can no longer please each other, no longer find each other exciting, if we enter completely new, supposedly much more unexciting paths compared to the ones we know so well? If we walk these paths with curiosity and an open mind, who knows? They might be even more exciting than the tried and tested?
We are inviting you on a journey of discovery together. Get to know yourselves and each other in a completely new way and with a depth and intensity that is difficult to put into words. Come with us into the realm of ecstatic energy, which can be accessed when you trust, surrender and simply let flow what wants to move through you with an open heart and a conscious mind.
This module includes ancient tantric worship rituals that enable you to perceive each other in a completely different way in everyday life – because you have formed a very special bond with each other that not only connects you deeply, but also allows you to merge physically and energetically. It is precisely because you are aware of your differences and perceive them with a loving eye that a deep unity can develop between you. And all of this may very well be accompanied by a feeling of being one with yourselves, your loved one and the whole universe. Bliss included.
Everything we offer takes place within a clearly defined, mindful and voluntary framework. You decide for yourself at any time how far you want to go.
Double Check
Creating Ecstasy from Stillness is the right workshop for you if ...
- you are ready to shift down a gear in love and in everyday life
- you want to listen less to your inner pushy parts and more to your heart
- you are curious and newly in love
- it is difficult right now and you are looking for a way to get back to yourselves and to each other
- you are looking for a way in which you can experience states of bliss together without any sexual arousal and without any pressure
- you want to leave old conditioning and reaction patterns behind
- you feel like strengthening your self-love, empathy and intuition
- you want to be even more sincere with each other as a couple
- you would like to integrate more gratitude, happiness and love into your life
- you want to bring more balance and equilibrium into your relationship
- you are looking for something more nourishing than the familiar "higher, faster, further"
- you want a relationship that fulfills you both in the long term and leaves you with a basic feeling of satisfaction
- you are curious about getting to know ecstasy as the mystics of old understood and taught it
- you would like to explore the tantric world together as a (perhaps even monogamous) couple in a safe space
- you like to experiment with the combination of physical touch and states of enlightenment
- you have understood or want to understand how moments of being alone can be used as catapults into the feeling of all-one-ness
- the joy of exploring and sharing adventures is something that connects you
- you want to cultivate the art of slowness instead of being rushed by your own to-do lists
- you are ready to explore yourselves to an unprecedented depth and to show yourselves to others this way
Your retreat location: the nature and recreation paradise Nature Community Schönsee
The Schönsee Nature Community on the border with the Czech Republic
Immerse yourself with us in a powerful yet warm place in the Upper Palatinate, embedded in vast nature and a lively community. On an extensive site, you will find a space where growth, encounters and tranquillity go hand in hand - beyond everyday life and conventional structure.
The Nature Community stands for joyful change, trusting experimentation and genuine cooperation.
At the same time, you are well looked after here. Schönsee stands for organic vegan food, cozy, comfortable rooms, a wellness area with sauna, warm water pool and relaxation rooms as well as an incredible amount of space for relaxation and connection with yourself and your loved one in the endless expanse of nature.
The most important facts summarized
Creating Ecstacy from Stillness – Tantra & Slow Sex for Couples is just as suitable for newcomers to tantra as it is for those who have been in the tantric field for some time.
The environment of the Nature Community supports exactly what we explore in the seminar:
deceleration, presence and a loving return to one’s own rhythm. Nature, space, warmth and retreats are not extras here – they are part of the field.
Your Weekend Seminar includes
- Guided tantric massages and Slow Sex techniques
- Breath & Energy Work: explore and let the subtle sexual energy flow together
- Energy & Sound Healing
- Numerous powerful exercises from Kashmiri and Tibetan Tantra
- Optional: morning meditation / Yin Yoga
Venue: Nature Community, St. Hubertus-Weg 1, 92539 Schönsee
Date and time: Thursday, May 7, 2026 from 6:00 pm (arrival from 4:00 pm) to Sunday, May 10, 2026, 2:00 pm (departure until 3:00 pm)
Please bring:
- your own water bottle
- Lunghi/Sarong (if available)
- optionally an item of importance for you to temporarily place onto our altar
Seminar prices for this weekend workshop per person (excluding board and lodging):
- 420 € regular
- 375 € reduced (single parents, students, people on low incomes – nobody should be excluded just because of the money)
- 525 € sponsor prize
Accommodation & Catering
Accommodation and full vegan organic meals are provided directly by our seminar venue, the Nature Community.
An overnight stay in a camper is possible from 10 EUR. A double room is available from 35 EUR per person. Catering is also included. You can get exact prices and all accommodation options directly from the Nature Community.
This is how it works:
- You first register for the seminar through us and pay the seminar fee.
- You will then receive all the information you need to book your room and meals separately on site.
Language: Our seminars are usually held in German. As soon as someone from another country is present who does not understand German, we switch to bilingual (German and English).
Images: Copyright Nature Community.
We look forward to spending time together with you with lots of love and slowness.
YouMeUnity
Thomas Hochgesang is a tantra teacher and intimacy coach. He uses therapeutic as well as systemic approaches for his work and also involves the energetics as well as spirituality. His approach is intended to help strengthen your self-healing powers, freedom of choice as well as raise your energy level. For this, he uses profound meditation techniques as well as playful body rituals from the tantric tradition and modern psychological insights. By living in India for 5,5 years and undergoing Buddhist training, he was able to establish a mindset that enables him to emanate deep peace and tranquillity. His open heart helps him transmit this attitude to whomever he meets.
Joy S. is a musician, author and specialist in self-love. As an intuitive guide, she leads people to their innermost longings and shadow worlds. During spiritual events, Joy gives free rein to her vocation as a musical medium and plays with elfish, healing tones and frequencies, while she expresses her Kali side as the lead singer in rock bands – the whole tantric spectrum. Together with her husband Thomas, she provides a safe space for deep tantric experiences and supports participants in their self-healing process.
As YouMeUnity, we are offering to accompany you on your journey to yourself. We enjoy it so much to see people arrive at their innermost core. In doing so they are getting ready to embrace one or several relationships that can last and that are honest, deeper than ever before and 100 % heart-open. Such a secure bonding includes honest and appreciative communication, an open heart and a readiness in everyone involved to fully love themselves – and by doing so, learning to love everyone and everything on this beautiful planet, too. Self-confidence, courage, authenticity and embracing what is are also part of this – as well as accepting everything about yourself, even those character traits that you are not particularly proud of. And, of course everything that reminds you of your innate Buddha within yourself.