Tantra Weekend Workshop -
The Divine Lover

The Art of Lovemaking
Tantra for Couples

The Divine Lover – a Tantra Weekend Seminar

For couples and practicing couples

Friday, 6 September to Sunday, 8 September 2024

Some of our most important weekend topics:

The highest art of sexual union is when a couple enters the state of timelessness together and for a moment merges with all that is. You lose yourself in order to meet yourself and the other one on another plane. If we merge fully with each other, ecstasy as a basic feeling remains a constant part of our lives.

It is particularly important for us to strengthen you as a couple. During all of the tantric exercises we’ll be doing together, you have the opportunity to do them in a protected environment, meaning: just the two of you – or you can, if you both agree, choose to experiment with others. You can make this decision anew every day, and you are welcome to make a completely different one every time. Just go with what you both feel most comfortable with in the here and now.


  • Masculine strength and tenderness
  • Healing your masculine parts
  • The balance: the inner man and the inner woman

We practise freeing ourselves from constraints and old conditioning and welcome the healed masculine in ourselves and our partner. At the same time, we lovingly accept everything about our own inner man and our own inner woman and thus facilitate healing. We allow them to connect with each other in a powerful way and to play and dance with each other. This inner balance between your sexual, emotional and spiritual aspects leads to more equilibrium, both in your relationship and in life as a whole.

In this module you will learn the tantric lingam massage. Through your loving attitude and targeted techniques, you can catapult a man to the highest heights of being.

For many men, fully surrendering to receiving touch can be a great challenge. Simply enjoying without having to do anything, being held, seen and loved without having to perform – this alone can touch a man in his innermost core and thus enable deep healing, which will also benefits the female presence in his life as well as all beings he may come in contact with.

Women can also dare to take a new look at their inner male parts and learn to lovingly value them more. Although for many women it is crucial to connect more with their femininity to reclaim their female power, an important step towards this is to make peace with the inner man inside of them. They may notice that they owe their inner man a great deal, because he has brought them thus far with his love of structure, his goal orientation and his focus on steady progress.

After the lingam massage, in which the women have found themselves in the giving role, they can look forward to deep relaxation: In a safe environment, they are invited to fully surrender to a guided breast massage.

Plus we have already prepared a beautiful, special tantra ritual for couples. Let yourself be surprised and enchanted.

Frau hält Mann - Sinnbild für das Seminar der Göttliche Geliebte

Good to know

The Divine Lover is part of our rolling annual training The Art of Lovemaking (for couples and practicing couples).

You will get to know or deepen the following with us:

  • guided tantric massages (such as for example breast massage, yoni massage, lingam massage)
  • freeing yourselves from old conditioning
  • balancing out your inner male and female parts
  • strengthening self-love
  • balancing love, intimacy and freedom in a relationship
  • Slow Sex and sacred, silent union
  • exploring the connection between ecstatic being and spirituality

This tantric weekend seminar invites you to change your perspective on the power of men. When a man feels valued and seen in a relationship, he can lead with an attractive mixture of loving dominance and empathy and thus also support the woman in fully owning her power. “The Divine Lover” is designed for couples and practicing couples. Love & Freedom Tantra by YouMeUnity is based on traditional Kashmiri and Tibetan teachings combined with modern sexual psychology.

THE ART OF LOVEMAKING is just as suitable for newcomers to tantra as it is for those who have been in the tantric field for some time.

Your weekend seminar “The Divine Lover” includes

  • guided tantric massages
  • Energy & Sound Healing
  • numerous powerful exercises from Kashmiri and Tibetan Tantra
  • optional: morning meditation / Yin Yoga

Location: TraumRaum Heidelberg, Hauptstraße 119, 69117 Heidelberg, Germany
(depending on group size also in another seminar house in the area)

Date and time: Friday, 6 September 2024 from 7:30 p.m. (arrival from 7:00 p.m.) to Sunday, 8 September, 2:00 p.m.

Please bring:

  • your own water bottle
  • Lunghi/Sarong (if available)
  • 10 € per person per day for snacks and shared breakfast
  • delicious addition to the buffet to share with the group
  • optionally an important item for our altar
  • for overnight stays (please register!) sleeping bag, sleeping mat, towels and 20 € contribution towards expenses per person per night

Seminar prices for this weekend workshop per person:

  • 420 € regular per person for a full weekend seminar (reduced prices possible for people on low incomes – no one should be excluded for money alone)

Overnight stay: Some space is available on request in our temple room. Please ask us in case you want to choose this option. Alternatively you can stay in one of the many hotels nearby.


Thomas Hochgesang is a tantra teacher and intimacy coach. He uses therapeutic as well as systemic approaches for his work and also involves the energetics as well as spirituality. His approach is intended to help strengthen your self-healing powers, freedom of choice as well as raise your energy level. For this, he uses profound meditation techniques as well as playful body rituals from the tantric tradition and modern psychological insights. By living in India for 5,5 years and undergoing Buddhist training, he was able to establish a mindset that enables him to emanate deep peace and tranquillity. His open heart helps him transmit this attitude to whomever he meets.

Joy S. is a musician, author and specialist in self-love. As an intuitive guide, she leads people to their innermost longings and shadow worlds. During spiritual events, Joy gives free rein to her vocation as a musical medium and plays with elfish, healing tones and frequencies, while she expresses her Kali side as the lead singer in rock bands – the whole tantric spectrum. Together with her husband Thomas, she provides a safe space for deep tantric experiences and supports participants in their self-healing process.

As YouMeUnity, we are offering to accompany you on your journey to yourself. We enjoy it so much to see people arrive at their innermost core. In doing so they are getting ready to embrace one or several relationships that can last and that are honest, deeper than ever before and 100 % heart-open. Such a secure bonding includes honest and appreciative communication, an open heart and a readiness in everyone involved to fully love themselves – and by doing so, learning to love everyone and everything on this beautiful planet, too. Self-confidence, courage, authenticity and embracing what is are also part of this – as well as accepting everything about yourself, even those character traits that you are not particularly proud of. And, of course everything that reminds you of your innate Buddha within yourself.

Do you have any questions?

Get in touch 🙂

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